Dale Carnegie and Presentation Lessons

How to Win Friends and Influence People is a book I’ve read when I was in college 14 years ago. It has helped me grow as a person and as  a professional and has indeed helped me make great friends and influence people along the way. I won’t delve much into all his profound teachings here. What I’d like to share with you are three presentation lessons we can all learn from the great man himself, Dale Carnegie.

1. “Do the hard jobs first. The easy jobs will take care of themselves.” – The more we procrastinate doing the hardest part of our presentation or whatever job is at hand, the more stressed out we’re going to be. So to end our pain and suffering, face the hard parts first, do them and notice how light and easy things seem to flow afterward.

2. “If you want to be enthusiastic, act enthusiastic.” – This is somehow similar to the saying “Fake it til you make it.” Sometimes, we really have to take the first step towards success or towards building our confidence by acting like we know what we’re doing, or faking our confidence. Soon enough, our mind will follow our behavior and we will truly become how we project ourselves outwardly.

3. “First ask yourself: what is the worst that can happen? Then prepare to accept it. Then proceed to improve on the worst. – If presenting or speaking in public is really hard for you, ask yourself this question. Then accept whatever answer comes to mind. For example, your answer might be “I might forget my lines”, or “I might stutter”, or “people might laugh at me or make fun of me”, or “I may never get a speaking gig after this”. Whatever your answer is, accept it.    After accepting it, do everything you can in your power to make sure it will never happen. But in case it does, learn from it and move on.

To find out more about these lessons, head to: Presentation Lessons from Dale Carnegie

How Do You Practice Confidence?

Many of our public speakers today are introvert by nature. But even the extrovert ones started out not very confident. They fumbled, made mistakes, and experienced pressure and anxiety as well.

Below are some of the things you can do to help you face your fear in public speaking and boost your confidence in the process so that you can start relaxing and being yourself when faced with a big crowd or audience.

  • Speak first. In any kind of social situation, always try to speak first. Try to initiate small talk and engage the other person in the conversation.
  • Network. Go out of your comfort zone and start introducing yourself to other people.
  • Stop hiding. Though it’s much less stressful to sit around all day or hiding behind your computer, go out of your way to talk to another human being. This will help you think on your feet.
  • Make eye contact. Observe the people who pass by your table at work and make eye contact with them while smiling at the same time.
These tips may sound simple enough. But they’re actually moderately difficult steps to get you out of your comfort zone first so you can start building confidence in yourself when you interact with other people.

To know the details of these tips, please head to: Practice Confidence